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I died earlier this afternoon. My Malaysian colleague Shalen had a last -minute rainy check on the “farewell” lunch of tomorrow, saying: “I cannot eat with a colleague who does not respect their supervisor”.

I was told not to justify myself to everyone because not everyone is worth my time, but I know that I like this colleague a lot when we have joined the business at the same time and it is really sad to be misunderstood by such a person.

It hurts when someone who wants you to dissatisfy understands you, especially when he judges your character according to a single perspective. As I really appreciate Shalen as a colleague, I realized that the key here is to focus on clarity, not on defense. If this person counts, it is worth cleaning the air. A simple message can keep it open, mature and non -defensive, allowing them to share their side instead of stopping completely. If Shalen refuses, then it is their loss, and at least we tried.

By applying my “mirror theory”, this incident is a reflection of something in me that I can use for self -growth. Here’s how we can break it down:

1. What is this situation that reflects me?

Shalen’s reaction suggests a perception conflict – how I see myself in relation to the way others see me. I could believe that I am assertive and direct, but she can see it as disrespectful or conflictual. It’s a chance to think:

• Are there moments when your confidence appears as a challenge?
• Could there be a more tactful way to express us in certain environments?

2. What emotions is this trigger?

I felt misunderstood and judged unfairly, which shows that I deeply care to be seen for whom I really am. Instead of reacting with frustration, ask:

• Why does this particular misunderstanding bother me so much?
• Am I looking for external validation where I should rather remain firm in my own values?

3. How can it help my growth?

This is an opportunity to:

• Refine my communication – Can I be just as daring but more convincing?
• Choose your battles – not everyone deserves an explanation, but for those who do it, how can I fill the understanding gap?
• Detach Ego – You don’t need everyone to agree with you; Sometimes the best answer is a graceful silence.

In the end, Shalen’s reaction is his reality, but our answer is our power. Take what is useful, let the rest and let this nourish yourself even more clearly in the navigation of relationships while remaining faithful to yourself.

In the end, I decided to speak to his Stanley supervisor to know his thoughts and see if he felt offended. I will repair things with his supervisor and let him transmit the message whether it is a pure misunderstanding or not. As for whether I would talk to him again, well, I will keep it for myself.

I died earlier this afternoon. My Malaysian colleague Shalen had a last -minute rainy check on the “farewell” lunch of tomorrow, saying: “I cannot eat with a colleague who does not respect their supervisor”.

I was told not to justify myself to everyone because not everyone is worth my time, but I know that I like this colleague a lot when we have joined the business at the same time and it is really sad to be misunderstood by such a person.

It hurts when someone who wants you to dissatisfy understands you, especially when he judges your character according to a single perspective. As I really appreciate Shalen as a colleague, I realized that the key here is to focus on clarity, not on defense. If this person counts, it is worth cleaning the air. A simple message can keep it open, mature and non -defensive, allowing them to share their side instead of stopping completely. If Shalen refuses, then it is their loss, and at least we tried.

By applying my “mirror theory”, this incident is a reflection of something in me that I can use for self -growth. Here’s how we can break it down:

1. What is this situation that reflects me?

Shalen’s reaction suggests a perception conflict – how I see myself in relation to the way others see me. I could believe that I am assertive and direct, but she can see it as disrespectful or conflictual. It’s a chance to think:

• Are there moments when your confidence appears as a challenge?
• Could there be a more tactful way to express us in certain environments?

2. What emotions is this trigger?

I felt misunderstood and judged unfairly, which shows that I deeply care to be seen for whom I really am. Instead of reacting with frustration, ask:

• Why does this particular misunderstanding bother me so much?
• Am I looking for external validation where I should rather remain firm in my own values?

3. How can it help my growth?

This is an opportunity to:

• Refine my communication – Can I be just as daring but more convincing?
• Choose your battles – not everyone deserves an explanation, but for those who do it, how can I fill the understanding gap?
• Detach Ego – You don’t need everyone to agree with you; Sometimes the best answer is a graceful silence.

In the end, Shalen’s reaction is his reality, but our answer is our power. Take what is useful, let the rest and let this nourish yourself even more clearly in the navigation of relationships while remaining faithful to yourself.

In the end, I decided to speak to his Stanley supervisor to know his thoughts and see if he felt offended. I will repair things with his supervisor and let him transmit the message whether it is a pure misunderstanding or not. As for whether I would talk to him again, well, I will keep it for myself.

I died earlier this afternoon. My Malaysian colleague Shalen had a last -minute rainy check on the “farewell” lunch of tomorrow, saying: “I cannot eat with a colleague who does not respect their supervisor”.

I was told not to justify myself to everyone because not everyone is worth my time, but I know that I like this colleague a lot when we have joined the business at the same time and it is really sad to be misunderstood by such a person.

It hurts when someone who wants you to dissatisfy understands you, especially when he judges your character according to a single perspective. As I really appreciate Shalen as a colleague, I realized that the key here is to focus on clarity, not on defense. If this person counts, it is worth cleaning the air. A simple message can keep it open, mature and non -defensive, allowing them to share their side instead of stopping completely. If Shalen refuses, then it is their loss, and at least we tried.

By applying my “mirror theory”, this incident is a reflection of something in me that I can use for self -growth. Here’s how we can break it down:

1. What is this situation that reflects me?

Shalen’s reaction suggests a perception conflict – how I see myself in relation to the way others see me. I could believe that I am assertive and direct, but she can see it as disrespectful or conflictual. It’s a chance to think:

• Are there moments when your confidence appears as a challenge?
• Could there be a more tactful way to express us in certain environments?

2. What emotions is this trigger?

I felt misunderstood and judged unfairly, which shows that I deeply care to be seen for whom I really am. Instead of reacting with frustration, ask:

• Why does this particular misunderstanding bother me so much?
• Am I looking for external validation where I should rather remain firm in my own values?

3. How can it help my growth?

This is an opportunity to:

• Refine my communication – Can I be just as daring but more convincing?
• Choose your battles – not everyone deserves an explanation, but for those who do it, how can I fill the understanding gap?
• Detach Ego – You don’t need everyone to agree with you; Sometimes the best answer is a graceful silence.

In the end, Shalen’s reaction is his reality, but our answer is our power. Take what is useful, let the rest and let this nourish yourself even more clearly in the navigation of relationships while remaining faithful to yourself.

In the end, I decided to speak to his Stanley supervisor to know his thoughts and see if he felt offended. I will repair things with his supervisor and let him transmit the message whether it is a pure misunderstanding or not. As for whether I would talk to him again, well, I will keep it for myself.